Achieving success is not about attaining everything. In order to get closer to achieving the success you don’t need to add more things, you need to give up some of them. Even though every person could have a different definition of success, there are certain universal things which will make you successful if you give up on them.
There are few things you can give up starting from today while it may take a bit longer to give up on the other few. Following are the few things to keep in mind:
Telling others how to get things done:
When people experience things, they think of themselves as experts. This makes them confident to tell other people how to get things done. But if you ever come up with suggesting someone, think of it that how would you feel if you are told to do the same? According to researchers, when leaders consider themselves as well-informed, their minds shut down and they no longer are able to absorb new ideas. In the same way, telling does not support learning and makes it extremely challenging to build trust.
Judging other people:
Living in today’s society, it is very easy for people to judge each other. But judging others narrows down your own thinking and options. It makes you believe that you know the best and have the perfect solution for every problem. Judging others sends other people a message they are less-informed, less-worthy, and less intelligent. This creates friction and conflicts among people and could harm your way to become successful.
Not accepting new ideas:
Having a typical thinking cannot help you solve problems. In trying to use the same thought pattern to create new solutions for continuously changing problems, you get stuck. Therefore, in order to move forward, you need to become open to new ideas. New ideas allow you to look at things from a different perspective which leads to innovation that supports success.
Assuming things can have a negative impact on your success. According to studies, when you assume something, you are 99.99 % wrong. Assumptions keep you away from gaining clarity on any issue and if they go unchecked they can raise misinterpretation, confusion, and frustration. The fastest way to getting out of assumptions is to ask curious questions beginning with who, what, where, and how. Asking questions will help you understand the issue and you will move forward by gaining clarity on your actions that you need to take.
Doing more than one thing at a time:
Most of the people consider multi-tasking as the fastest way to get more things done. But that is not true in real life. When you try to complete more tasks at one time, you become distracted very easily, fail to achieve quality work, and it raises frustration and confusion. Therefore, avoiding multitasking can help you maintain our focus on one thing. When you are fully present with one thing, you make fewer mistakes and complete work more effectively.