You need to love yourself first. You are so drowned in the concept of being loved that you forget, the one person you must love first is yourself.
You go on a process of self-discovery when you get ignored by others and even then, you prefer your feelings of love for yourself. Loving yourself, forgiving yourself, and being true to yourself is the standard you set for others to treat you.
If you do not love yourself and give importance to it, it is not wise to expect others to that to you.
“We must fall in love with yourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself.” – Mae West
As humans, everyone has many faults and shortcomings. But if you learn to embrace all your faults and accept yourself as you are, you give a push to your personal evolution and eventually move on the process of improving yourself.
Following are the ways that can help you to develop a stronger relationship with yourself:
Become aware of yourself:
You may spend an entire life trying to become perfect but you will never be able to do that. Perfection is a far cry and in pursuit of such aim, you lose sight of actual goals.
It is because nobody is perfect and it is very important for your personal growth to become aware of your flaws. Accept the weaknesses that you are afraid to show and move forward by improving them. Appreciate yourself for how you look and what things you have accomplished. You will see that you are a better version of yourself as compared to when you initially started.
“Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.” Louise Hay
Entertain positive thoughts:
Your self-esteem increases when you entertain positive thoughts in your mind. These thoughts make you become kinder to yourself and give out what you hold in your heart. Even if the environment you are living in is bitter, unfavorable, by embracing your positive thoughts, you help yourself shaping into a better person.
“If you have the ability to love, love yourself first.” Charles Bukowski
Be proud of your success:
If you pursue what you desire then you consider success only upon reaching the goals that you have set for yourself. But that does not mean that you do not acknowledge all those little goals that you have achieved towards the path of a greater goal. It is not always about winning, you also need to appreciate the effort you put in every step to reach closer to your goals.
“You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.” Diane Von
For identifying your true self, you must let go of worrying. Stress kills, it hurts and it never helps.
It is because when you entertain the worrying thoughts, you establish stronger neural connections in your brain for worrying to exist. Therefore, you must transform your worries into empowering emotional energies. It will help you becomes stronger with your strengths.
“Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.” – L. Hay
Do not criticize yourself:
Sometimes you find it satisfying to criticize yourself for even the smaller mistakes you’ve made. It strengthens your belief in the imperfections that you have but this behavior does not take you anywhere fast. Therefore, connect with your strengths than the weaknesses and let go of judging yourself in order to be kind to yourself.
“Loving yourself isn’t vanity. It’s sanity.” – Andre Gide
Not everyone is rich. You have to understand that there are billions of people who are living below the poverty line right now and barely get enough to survive every single day. By entailing gratitude in your daily life, you will create a source of happiness by being grateful for the blessings that you have. Recognize what you have in your life and thank God for every single element that makes your life better.
“Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.” – Anna Taylor