A palliative nurse, Bronnie Ware recorded the most common regrets of the dying people. She has put her findings into a book called “The Top Five Regrets of The Dying.”
The regrets highlighted are very heart touching. Things we take for granted and do not pay heed to when we are young turn out to be the most important things we’ve missed in our life when we grow old.
“Death is not extinguishing the light; it is only putting out the lamp because dawn has come.” – Rabindranath Tagore
Lets’s take a look at the top 5 regrets of the dying as presented by Nurse Bronnie Ware.
This was the common regret of all. Not living a life that I always wanted to live and always listened to others about what to do and how life should be led.
People couldn’t honour their dreams and failed to do justice to themselves when they were young. It is very important to break the mental barriers inside you. Fight the inner fear and take a risk to make a decision.
Every successful man who has ever lived on the earth became successful by pursuing their dreams, not others. If they were passionate about something, they went on to do it without worrying about ‘what will people think’ and ‘what if I fail?’
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
Bronnie Ware says “This came from every male patient that I nursed.
They missed their children’s childhood and their life partner’s companionship.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Friends are very important in life but, by not keeping in touch with your friends often because, you were worried about making money, working hard to make ends meet was a common regret of every patient.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
Happiness is a choice but by staying stuck in old patterns and habits, people did not move outside their comfort zone and realized they never experienced true happiness.
Laughing with friends and family, staying happy with yourself should have been a priority, most of the patients exclaimed regretfully.